Don’t Call Me Shy
 
 
We become who we think we are. We can change the way that we think about ourselves, and, as a result, change the way we behave.
-Don’t Call Me Shy chapter 1
The author
    Laurie Adelman is a nurse and health educator, a shyness life coach, and a child advocate who is passionately devoted to teaching parents and teachers how to interact with shy children in a way which brings out the child’s social best.
 
Note: These techniques bring out the social best in shy adults too!
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Self Evaluation
 
1.    If a child is born shy, she/he is destined to remain shy.  
 
2.    When we label a child as shy we help the child see herself realistically for who she is.  
 
3.    Teachers can do very little to increase the level of comfort that a shy child feels in class.
 
4.    Parents pass on to their children not only their genes, but also their expectations.
 
5.    When you label a child as shy, you teach the child to blame shyness for her social discomfort.
 
6.    When a shy child expresses nervousness about social activities it is helpful to reassure her by saying “There’s nothing to be afraid of. You should have fun.”
 
7.    Once a child is older or becomes a shy adult, there is little that can be done to help the person behave in a social manner.
 
8.    To help a shy child feel more socially comfortable it is important to tell them to “stop being so quiet.”
 
 
 
 
Understanding shyness
 
    You came to this website because you are interested in helping a shy individual or you are shy yourself. The first step is to explore your thoughts and feelings about shyness. Read the statements to the right and decide if you think they are true or false. When you are finished, turn to the answer key to evaluate your answers.
 
Laurie Adelman
B.S.N., M.S. Family Health/Health Education
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