Don’t Call Me Shy
Every day I will show you an appreciation for who you are and a belief in what you can become.
-Don’t Call Me Shy chapter 12
The author
    Laurie Adelman is a nurse and health educator, a shyness life coach, and a child advocate who is passionately devoted to teaching parents and teachers how to interact with shy children in a way which brings out the child’s social best.
Note: These techniques bring out the social best in shy adults too!
Words of praise for Don’t Call Me Shy
    “This well written and easy to read book gives multiple techniques and step-by-step activities to help parents bring out the social best in their shy child. I heartily recommend it.”  
                -Elliot Eisenstein. M.D., F.A.A.P.
                 Department of Pediatrics,
                 St. Joseph’s Wayne Hospital
    “This book is a must read for every parent of a shy child. Laurie Adelman offers a practical step-by-step program for nurturing social confidence in children. Well written, this book is a powerful resource for helping liberate the social potential of a shy child.
    Laurie Adelman focuses on the inner self-talk of a shy child. That voice says, “I’m shy and can’t be social with people.” Adelman maintains that this inner voice becomes a stigmatizing block to a child’s personal potential. That self-talk is a reflection of the labeling messages the child hears from her parent and other caregivers – “Why are you so shy? Say hello.” Such labeling needs to be countered with responses that do not promote anxiety in a shy child but offer optimism for future social success – “You need a little time to get used to new situations, and it’s okay.”
    Adelman talks about her own experience growing up as a shy child and raising her daughter, who was also shy. These personal disclosures add warmth and interest to a book that is filled with no nonsense practical advice for parents to help their shy child. Parents will learn about methods for training their child in “good friend making” (GFM) behaviors. The GFM skill helps a child change her inner self-talk from “I can’t,” to “I can.” Parents learn how to implement a program called “You Can Do It,” which supports their child’s efforts towards achieving social comfort. Parents also learn to teach their child to make that effort using the “Ready, Set, Go, Social Readiness Program.”
    As a therapist, I recommend this book to parents who complain about their child’s social anxiety. Don’t Call Me Shy has much to offer in treating a condition that limits a child’s ability to be her best now and tomorrow.”
                -John DeMarco M.Ed., LPC
                 Psychotherapist specializing in
                 parent and child relationships
    Don’t Call Me Shy reads like a how-to book for raising socially successful children. This book contains many practical tools for parents, but considering the amount of time that our children spend in a school setting, Don’t Call Me Shy should be required reading for aspiring and existing teachers. Although we think of schools primarily as academic institutions, there can be no denying that the bulk of a child’s socialization skills are being developed and rigorously tested there as well.
    Don’t Call Me Shy clearly brings to light the ways in which a teacher’s attitudes about, perceptions of, and responses to shy students can have a make or break effect on whether these students can reach their true potential and become both socially and academically successful individuals. I have introduced some of the techniques from Don’t Call Me Shy into my classroom and, already, I have seen positive change!
                   -Laura Hoogstrate, Teacher,
                    B.S. Elementary Education
    Laurie Adelman writes a sensitive and practical guide that will assist parents, teachers, or anyone who cares for children. The author has a way of touching the reader in a very understanding manner, and I found myself laughing and crying as she described situations that I too had gone through. I came away from the book singing the Social Me song, a technique that helps shy children remember the steps they must take each time they find themselves in a social situation.
    Don’t Call Me Shy is a very important book that makes it easy for caretakers to help shy children achieve social comfort in an upbeat and positive manner. As a first grade teacher and the mother of shy daughters I wish I had had Don’t Call Me Shy to rely on for valuable guidance and support.
                    -Florence Polay, Teacher,
                     M.S. Elementary Education
    Don’t Call Me Shy offers parents and educators an understanding of those children who need extra support and encouragement to make their way in a social setting. The author gives us an in-depth look at the behaviors that lead to the “shy” label and the negative impact that has on any child’s self esteem.
    Don’t Call Me Shy provides a variety of scenarios – familiar to many of us – and then provides practical tools to help any youngster who is painfully reluctant to participate in an activity.
    Ms. Adelman’s advice is on target because it comes from personal experience. Don’t Call Me Shy is an important guide to helping our children succeed in any social arena.
                    -Barbara Zitcer, Director
                    Early Childhood Department
                    YM-YWHA of North Jersey
Readers speak out
    From the author of countless articles, educational brochures, and inspirational pieces, Laurie Adelman offers positive and practical advice to parents, teachers, and shy adults on how to turn a shy potential into a social one. Read on and see what readers have to say about Don’t Call Me Shy.
Laurie Adelman
B.S.N., M.S. Family Health/Health Education
Don’t Call Me Shy...
In Bookstores 
September 1, 2007
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