Don’t Call Me Shy
What if I were to tell you that by changing the way that you interact with your child you can help your shy child feel comfortable in social situations…
-Don’t Call Me Shy chapter 1
Don’t Call Me Shy chapter 12
The author
    Laurie Adelman is a nurse and health educator, a shyness life coach, and a child advocate who is passionately devoted to teaching parents and teachers how to interact with shy children in a way which brings out the child’s social best.
Note: These techniques bring out the social best in shy adults too!
Support groups and lectures are often uncomfortable forums for parents of shy children
    Our society values outgoing behavior. It is unfortunate but true that parents of shy children often feel uncomfortable admitting in a group setting that their child is shy. Furthermore, it is extremely difficult to analyze, in front of others, parenting techniques that may be failing. And it is even more difficult to publicly announce that you may feel frustrated and embarrassed by your child’s behavior. While it certainly is not an easy thing to admit, all of these feelings are real and parents need to confront them in order to be able to better parent their shy child.
    That is why many parents have found that shyness coaching is an ideal approach which allows them to share personal details and honest feelings, one-on-one, in the privacy of their own home. Only the coach at the other end of the phone hears what the parent is feeling and can offer advice and direction to help create a plan specific to the needs of that particular child.
If you are looking for specific answers to help you better parent your shy child, shyness coaching may be right for you
    Speak directly with Shyness Life Coach Laurie Adelman. Laurie can help you focus on your child’s specific social needs and assist you in discovering the best methods to help your child achieve social comfort.
    Bringing to life the methods in her book Don’t Call Me Shy, and her personal and professional experiences, Laurie Adelman will help you fine – tune an approach personalized for your particular child.
What is a life coach?
    Life coaching is gaining popularity as increasing numbers of people realize the benefits of a coaching relationship. Just as a person hires a tennis coach to improve their tennis game, a financial coach to focus on finances, a weight loss coach to learn about proper diet and exercise, a childbirth coach to prepare for childbirth, or a La Leche coach to assist with breastfeeding techniques, people seek out the expertise of a coach who has a skill in a particular area.
    Life coaching is a widely growing method that helps clients achieve personal goals. Most coaching is done over the telephone. Telephone coaching allows for the least bit of disruption and clients report that a major advantage of this approach is their ability to clearly focus while on the phone. Coaching over the telephone is convenient and the client can remain anonymous. Each coaching session is 30 minutes and generally takes place on a weekly basis.
    Coaching is a 2-way process and involves listening and reflecting back. Coaching is non-judgmental and coaching is completely confidential.
    While therapy is generally problem-focused and involves delving into the past, coaching focuses on the present and future. Painful past experiences may be explored, but coaching is behavior focused and gives the client clear direction to move forward.
As a parent, what can I expect from my shyness coach?
    Shyness coaching for parents helps parents explore what methods they are presently using to parent their child and which of the methods are working or not working. Parents become more aware of how they interact with their shy child and how what they say, and do, has a direct effect upon how the shy child comes to develop. Shyness coaching is an interaction between the coach and the parent and teaches the parent to help the child.
The goals of shyness coaching for parents is fourfold:
•    Helping the parent recognize what a profound effect their words and actions – either positive or negative – have on their shy child’s social development
•    Acknowledgment and exploration of the frustrations and challenges associated with raising a shy child
•    Pinpointing the social areas that are most challenging for that particular child and assessing the child’s strengths and weaknesses
•    Focus on the techniques, fine-tuned to the specific needs of the child, to bring out the child’s social best
What is the cost and frequency of shyness coaching?
    The rate for a 30-minute telephone session is $65.00. For ongoing, weekly sessions the monthly (4 sessions per month) rate is $255.00/month.  
For further information and/or to schedule a telephone appointment, e-mail Laurie directly:
A personal message from Laurie
    Having been a shy child and the parent of a shy child, I know firsthand how it feels to be shy and how challenging it can be to be the parent of a shy child, trying to do all you can for the child you love. I have researched shyness all of my life and have interviewed hundreds of shy children, shy adults, parents and teachers. I have created a definite approach to help shy children and adults bring out their social best.
    I actively participate in parenting and shyness support groups, both online and in group situations. During the course of many years my techniques have resulted in major breakthroughs in the behavior of shy children. Parents and teachers are amazed by the progress their children have made.
    I am extremely moved by each and every personal triumph and I feel especially privileged to play an active role in improving the lives of parents, teachers, and children!
Laurie Adelman
B.S.N., M.S. Family Health/Health Education
Don’t Call Me Shy...
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September 1, 2007
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