Don’t Call Me Shy
Most of us develop only a small portion of our potential because we are never given the belief that there is much more there to develop. Help your child define herself as having many abilities, and new traits appear to develop before your eyes.
- Don’t Call Me Shy chapter 4
The author
    Laurie Adelman is a nurse and health educator, a shyness life coach, and a child advocate who is passionately devoted to teaching parents and teachers how to interact with shy children in a way which brings out the child’s social best.
Note: These techniques bring out the social best in shy adults too!
Step inside the mind and heart of shy children and their parents
    The author, Laurie Adelman, who was a shy child herself and has a shy child of her own, takes us into the world of shyness. We experience the thoughts, emotions, and pressures of being shy. The author teaches us how to parent a shy child and how it feels to be that parent. You gain a friend and a mentor who understands – really understands – what it is like to feel the anxiety and frustration of having a shy child, and what it is like to be the shy child herself.
Excerpts from Don’t Call Me Shy
Chapter 1 - Here’s What I Believe
       I have written this book for each and every child who struggles with the desire to speak out. My approach reaches out to the youngster who wants to play at recess but just doesn’t know how to get involved. I know how to help the little girl who plans on talking to another child in class but can’t muster up the courage to start the conversation. I understand what it is like to be the young boy who plays ball really well at home, but doesn’t yet know how to approach the other boys at school.
        And, finally I thoroughly understand you parents, who, like me, want to do all you can to help your own shy child succeed. You, too, can become expert at bringing out the social best in your child.
Chapter 3 - What Are We Doing To Our Children?
    “Shy, shy, shy.” Her mind repeated the words.
    “I’m such a failure. I feel so stupid,”
      No child should ever feel this way.
       It was visiting day at school. All of the parents were crowded into fifth grade classroom number 7. The children were taking turns speaking about books they had read.
        It was Alyssa’s turn.
        “Alyssa,” the teacher said with a smile.
        Alyssa stood and inched her way to the front of the room. Her face was beet red and she swallowed repeatedly. Her mind felt cloudy and her thoughts were garbled. “I CAN’T do this,” she thought.
        Her head pounded as those all too familiar words echoed in her brain. “Shy, shy, shy.”
        “Let’s get started,” the teacher prompted.
        In a voice that was barely audible, Alyssa mouthed some words. She tried again to speak while her hands shook uncontrollably.
        Her classmates were getting fidgety.
        All eyes were glued in her direction, willing her to go on.
        Alyssa felt out of control. She could feel the tension in the room. Everyone could. Alyssa looked down once more and whispered the final words of her report. She was finished! Feelings of relief intermingled with feelings of embarrassment, and an overwhelming intense notion of failure consumed her. This certainly wasn’t the first time that she felt this way.
        “Shy, shy, shy,” her mind repeated the words.
“I’m such a failure. I feel so stupid.”
        The teacher’s words jarred Alyssa from her private thoughts. “Okay,” she said. “Are there any questions from the class?”
        Immediately a hand shot up in front of the room. “Yes, Joey,” said the teacher.
        “I couldn’t hear one stinkin’ word of her report,” he said with disgust.
        The shy word bellowed in Alyssa’s head, making it less and less likely that she would ever be able to comfortably speak in front of her class.
    “Shy, shy, shy, shy, shy, shy, shy!”
    This is the inner voice of the shy child. It reminds her daily that she is shy, but much more damaging, it reminds her over and over again of what she CANNOT DO. Here forms the destructive mental foundation for the shy child’s life. Being labeled as shy, a child is, in effect, given a list of behaviors that she is supposedly unable to do.
        Shy means CAN’T.
    “I can’t be friendly, I can’t speak to others, I can’t make friends…
Chapter 6 - How Our Thoughts Affect Us
    You will learn how to arm your child with the ability to put herself into social situations and succeed because her thoughts will dictate appropriate behavior. Your child will come to believe in herself by developing a strong I CAN social belief system. Your younger child will learn right from the start that she is capable.
    For the older child (and adult) whose initial concept of herself is one of shyness, my program will lead the individual to her own conclusion that her previously held shy beliefs were inaccurate and that she is capable of much more. The picture that the older child (and adult) had for herself will slowly change, and her new system of beliefs will allow her to take on the role of potentially social. She will no longer have any use for her previous shy role. The individual’s perception of herself as having the ability to behave in a socially comfortable manner will grow very strong.
Don’t Call Me Shy
    A must-read for parents and teachers looking for an encouraging approach
to help shy children shine. Irreplaceable and thought-provoking with wonderful insights to help you become the parent that you wish you had. You will be amazed how social your child can become!
Laurie Adelman
B.S.N., M.S. Family Health/Health Education
Don’t Call Me Shy...
In Bookstores 
September 1, 2007
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